Resilience: The Emotional Capital in Young People
Jay Baughan: It is stated that resilient young people are considerably more responsive, are more active, more flexible and adaptable.
Imagine now being able to guide a young person in how to overcome challenges and adversity, to stay in control even when events go off track, to reach out for new opportunities and experiences even against all the odds.
That is what is called the emotional capital within any young person!
Having the ability to develop your inner resources to charter a route through any future tough times. For me the great news is that there is finally a momentum behind the drive to use emotional intelligence to systematically develop the resilience in young people. A push to better equip and empower them for their future lives.
Misunderstanding of Resilience
Who really can explain resilience? Well I have noticed of late, so many adults who are working with young people, who really don’t understand the importance or the structure of emotional resilience. You will hear me say often, that without the firm foundations of an emotional understanding it is not possible to develop any form of self-sustaining resilience within young people.
Insight & Tactics: Building Emotional Resilience
The psychology of change suggests that you need to first give the Insight and then provide the Tactics. Well let’s start with the Insight:
To be given a look inside yourself, to recognise and measure your emotions, understand how well you are fostering relationships, how well you interact with others and how you cope with the outside world, is one of the most enlightening experiences ever. Upon this, you can build a skyscraper!
This is the essence of Emotional Intelligence!
Once you show a young person how it is they operate on an emotional level, you can then work with them to develop their emotional repertoire for real-life. You are giving them their own building blocks to become more resilient (they can even know when they are, or are not, being resilient too by the way).
Next the Tactics:
The importance of developing emotional intelligence in young people, especially in this very fast paced, aggressive and highly opinionated world we live it, is that it helps them better establish themselves and construct an operating model of their inner, other and outer emotional dynamics.They become empowered!
This use of a model helps them understand how to cope at school (perhaps making a painful transition), in the community (perhaps navigating temptations or difficulty) and in the home (making sense of life in the house and the tsunami of emotions that hit them). It empowers them with the ability to positively control their emotions and also life around them – to make sense of it all.
As young people then develop over time, we can measure their emotional development against real-life encounters, can guide them to adjust their levels of emotional capital to feel more motivated - something many adults desire above all else today and it is this desire which drives-up self-help book sales!
Building Resilience within UK Communities
To build resilience we need to nurture individual capability, and also provide the local support network of emotional intelligence competency that supports a wider building of measureable emotional capital.
By helping to build a community of competency in emotional intelligence, we can at last help young people to become responsive, active, flexible and adaptable adults in the future.
For full article see https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/resiliency-emotional-capital-young-people-jay-baughan
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business. She is Author of Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).