Build a Skyscraper with Emotional Capital

Resilience: The Emotional Capital in Young People

It is stated that resilient young people are considerably more responsive, are more active, more flexible and adaptable.

Imagine now being able to guide a young person in how to overcome challenges and adversity, to stay in control even when events go off track, to reach out for new opportunities and experiences even against all the odds.

That is what is called the emotional capital within any young person!

Having the ability to develop your inner resources to charter a route through any future tough times. For me the great news is that there is finally a momentum behind the drive to use emotional intelligence to systematically develop the resilience in young people. A push to better equip and empower them for their future lives. 

Misunderstanding of Resilience

Who really can explain resilience? Well I have noticed of late, so many adults who are working with young people, who really don’t understand the importance or the structure of emotional resilience. You will hear me say often, that without the firm foundations of an emotional understanding it is not possible to develop any form of self-sustaining resilience within young people.

Insight & Tactics: Building Emotional Resilience

The psychology of change suggests that you need to first give the Insight and then provide the Tactics. Well let’s start with the Insight:

Stripy laptop with inscription Under constructionTo be given a look inside yourself, to recognise and measure your emotions, understand how well you are fostering relationships, how well you interact with others and how you cope with the outside world, is one of the most enlightening experiences ever. Upon this, you can build a skyscraper!

This is the essence of Emotional Intelligence!

Once you show a young person how it is they operate on an emotional level, you can then work with them to develop their emotional repertoire for real-life. You are giving them their own building blocks to become more resilient (they can even know when they are, or are not, being resilient too by the way).

Next the Tactics:

The importance of developing emotional intelligence in young people, especially in this very fast paced, aggressive and highly opinionated world we live it, is that it helps them better establish themselves and construct an operating model of their inner, other and outer emotional dynamics.They become empowered!

This use of a model helps them understand how to cope at school (perhaps making a painful transition), in the community (perhaps navigating temptations or difficulty) and in the home (making sense of life in the house and the tsunami of emotions that hit them). It empowers them with the ability to positively control their emotions and also life around them – to make sense of it all.

As young people then develop over time, we can measure their emotional development against real-life encounters, can guide them to adjust their levels of emotional capital to feel more motivated - something many adults desire above all else today and it is this desire which drives-up self-help book sales!   

Building Resilience within UK Communities

To build resilience we need to nurture individual capability, and also provide the local support network of emotional intelligence competency that supports a wider building of measureable emotional capital.

By helping to build a community of competency in emotional intelligence, we can at last help young people to become responsive, active, flexible and adaptable adults in the future.

For full article see   https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/resiliency-emotional-capital-young-people-jay-baughan

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

 

Teachers Need Teaching Too

Teaching the Teachers Resilience

An estimated 30 to 40 per cent of new teachers in Australia are leaving the profession within the first five years due to workload and emotional burnout.

At the start of his own teaching career Dean McManus became a statistic, quitting in the second year.

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“Luckily, I reconnected with my mentor and got back into teaching,” he says. “I then had a 12-month break after teaching for 10 years and travelled Australia facilitating whole-school mental-health promotion workshops in secondary schools. When I returned to teaching, I started taking much better care of myself, connecting better with staff and students and immersed myself in studying psychology.”

With an honours degree in psychology under his belt, McManus launched his teacher training company, Celebrity Teacher, 18 months ago. It has been endorsed by  the Board of Studies, Teaching and Educational Standards NSW. Originally designed for beginning teachers, the courses now reach more experienced teachers, mentors, counsellors, executives, administrative and support staff.

“My experiences with emotional burnout at various points of my career really helped me to empathise with the teachers I have worked with,” he says. “I shared many of the tools and techniques I had learnt from my teaching experience and psychology training and together we came up with great strategies to support each other and look after ourselves better.”

Celebrity Teacher’s Introductory Workshop allows teachers to renew their commitment to prioritising self-care, flexible thinking and nurturing a sustainable life-work balance. Positive Psychology exercises also refocus teachers on the importance of hope and realistic optimism to maintain high levels of self-efficacy and self-belief. A follow-up course on Mental Toughness for Positive Teacher Identity explores the mindset needed for teachers to perform to the peak of their abilities, when exposed to stressors, pressure and challenge.

“Good problem-solving and finding novel solutions to complex situations is the cornerstone to resilience,” McManus says. “Research has shown the typical teacher makes 200-plus decisions per teaching hour and that can be a minefield, if you’re not on your game.”

http://www.bendigoadvertiser.com.au/story/3265880/teaching-the-teachers-resilience/?cs=9

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

5 Ways to Use EI in Marketing

5 Ways Entrepreneurs Can Use Emotional Intelligence for Marketing

Have you ever left your car for 15 minutes only to get back into the driver’s seat and notice an annoying flyer shoved under your window wiper? Like most of us, you probably pull it out, crumple it up and curse the litter-inducing ad ninjas who targeted you.

Unfortunately, digital marketing is beginning to resemble this same irritating chain of events. With increased technology, many digital marketers are desperately targeting and re-targeting potential customers in all the wrong places — and it’s making them mad.

Indeed, a recent study showed almost 50 percent of consumers think their brands are clueless about how to reach them. Another study found that only one in three customers believe their favorite brands truly understand them.

I have found that the solution to this problem is emotional intelligence: it’s about being real, authentic and intuitive. Emotional intelligence helps me run a more profitable business. And I believe it’s time for marketing enterprises to implement these same skills.

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1. Listen deeply

Before investing in digital media, use any number of social listening tools such as Topsy, Hootsuite and Social Mention to understand what your audience is passionate about. You would never barge into a dinner party and hijack the conversation, so why would you want your brand to be perceived as doing the same thing via digital marketing? By listening to what people care about, you can formulate your strategy of how best to do the next four recommended steps below.

2.  Add value first

Find ways to add value rather than simply pushing your own agenda. If you are coming from a place of giving rather than taking, then you will naturally be inclined to help the people you are looking to serve with your products or services. Adding value is about finding ways to enhance and improve the lives of the customers you’d like to acquire and retain. Sure, you can argue that this is the ultimate purpose of your product or service but before anyone wants to buy from you, they first need to understand who you are, what you represent and why they should invest in your brand. In order to accomplish this, they have to get to know you. Make it easy for them to want to get to know you by finding ways to add value before you ask for the sale.

3. Attraction beats distraction

Focus on desire and the laws of attraction to draw your audience in rather than trying to interrupt and distract them. No one likes to be “sold” but everyone loves to buy. Become an expert storyteller. Think beyond the features and benefits of what you’re selling. What does your company and brand stand for? How are you making the world a better place in some small but important way?

4. Don’t be creepy

Yes, you can leverage big data to learn a lot about your audience but there is a fine line between insightful and creepy. If you feel you may be crossing the line, you probably are (even if it’s not illegal to do so). Instead, think about the ways you can be insightful and surprise and delight your audience rather than creeping them out by how much you know about them and their habits.

5. Respect when retargeting

Frequency is important, but you can go overboard with your retargeting. Balance awareness goals with annoyance risks. Think about retargeting in terms of dating. Just because someone went out on a date with you doesn’t mean they want to marry you. No one likes being hounded. Respect the fact that not everyone you want to sell to is ready to buy from you.

In addition to growing your business faster, using these emotionally intelligent strategies will ensure you are connecting with the right emotionally intelligent customers who will, in turn, help you grow faster. After all, the right customers that buy from you for the right reasons will ensure right relations and attract more of the right customers in the future.

Bill Carmody:  http://www.entrepreneur.com/article/246390

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015). http://www.eiworld.org

 

 

Pets Purrfect for Emotional Intelligence

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Kids who grow up with dogs and cats are more emotionally intelligent and compassionate

If you’re a parent, the idea of adding the care and feeding of an animal to your responsibilities might feel like too much work. But having a dog, cat, bunny, hamster or other animal as a part of the family benefits kids in real ways. Studies have shown that kids who have pets do better — especially in the area of Emotional Intelligence (EQ), which has been linked to early academic success, even more so than the traditional measure of intelligence, IQ.

 Even better news is that unlike IQ, which is thought by most experts to be unchangeable (you can’t really change your IQ by studying), EQ can improve over time with practice. Animal friends can help kids do that by cultivating the very skills that lead to better Emotional Intelligence. (And pooches and kitties aren’t even trying; it just comes naturally.)

 The following EQ skills are developed by children with pets:

 1. Compassion: According to this overview of the scientific literature by Nienke Endenburg and Ben Baarda in The Waltham Book of Human-Animal Interaction, “If there are pets in the house, parents and children frequently share in taking care of the pet, which suggests that youngsters learn at an early age how to care for and nurture a dependent animal.” Even very young children can contribute to the care and feeding of a pet — a 3-year-old can take a bowl of food and set it on the floor for a cat, and at the same age, a child can be taught to stroke an animal nicely, maybe using the back of the hand so they don’t grab the animal. Supervising kids during the first few interactions is a teaching moment. Later, once they have learned the ropes, their memory and understanding of a life outside themselves will be stimulated each time they interact with the animals. Older kids can be responsible for walking a dog or playing with it in the yard, cleaning out a cat’s litter box, or taking veggie scraps from dinner to a rabbit or hamster. A study of 3- to 6-year-olds found that kids with pets had more empathy towards other animals and human beings, while another study found that even just having an animal in a classroom made fourth-graders more compassionate.

 2. Self-esteem: Caring for pets also builds self-esteem because being assigned tasks (like filling the dog’s water bowl) gives a child a sense of accomplishment and helps him feel independent and competent. Pets can be especially good for children who have very low self-esteem: “[A researcher] found that children’s self-esteem scores increased significantly over a nine-month period of keeping pets in their school classroom. In particular, it was children with originally low self-esteem scores who showed the greatest improvements,” write Endenburg and Baarda.

 3. Cognitive development: Kids with pets play with them, talk to them, and even read to them (that last activity is more common than you’d think), and the data backs up the idea that this additional low-stress communication benefits verbal development in the youngest kids. “Pet ownership might facilitate language acquisition and enhance verbal skills in children. This would occur as a result of the pet functioning both as a patient recipient of the young child’s babble and as an attractive verbal stimulus, eliciting communication from the child in the form of praise, orders, encouragement and punishment.”

 4. Stress reduction: In surveys of kids who are asked about who they would go to with a problem, children regularly mentioned pets, indicating that for many, animals can provide emotional support and an additional way to mitigate negative emotions when they are feeling stressed. “The ‘social’ support given by pets has some advantages compared to the social support given by humans. Pets can make people feel unconditionally accepted, whereas fellow humans will judge and may criticize,” write Endenburg and Baarda. Animals are great listeners and are non-judgmental — if a kid does badly on a test or angers their parents, an animal will still provide loving support.

If any of the above concepts sound familiar to adult readers, that’s because some of the same benefits are relevant for grown-ups too, including the social support and stress reduction.

Read more: http://www.mnn.com/family/pets/blogs/kids-who-grow-up-with-dogs-and-cats-are-more-emotionally-intelligent-and#ixzz3ZCgZ4Srq

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

Leadership Traits: Business Intelligence Balanced with Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence: An Essential Leadership Trait

Eric Douglas:

When we think of successful leaders, we often consider their business intelligence – the ability to think and execute in the short-term and plan for the future – as the most important factor of success. Equally important for a leader is emotional intelligence.

What is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand and communicate effectively to different audiences. It’s the ability to understand your own motivations and feelings. It’s the ability to display confidence while at the same time enabling others to feel confident and successful.

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High emotional intelligence creates stronger leadership in the following ways:

  • It gives leaders the self-awareness to understand how subtle changes in their demeanor and speech affect those around them.
  • It helps leaders respond with an affirming intent and manner—even in the middle of a heated discussion—making conversations more productive.
  • It enables leaders to empathize with employees—even those they disagree with—which leads to higher levels of trust.
  • Emotional intelligence gives leaders a view into what motivates different people. Some people want a lot of autonomy. Others prefer to work in teams. Emotional intelligence enables leaders to tap into those motivators to encourage better performance.

Take the following steps to hone your emotional intelligence:

  • Avoid rushing to judgment when an employee does something that disappoints you. Slow down and ask questions about what led to the behavior. Listen with an open mind.
  • Examine whether you were at fault for a negative outcome. If so, accept responsibility and be honest with yourself and others about where you went wrong.
  • Think through carefully what motivates the people around you. Engage them in discussions about how best to tap their intrinsic sources of motivation. Use emotional intelligence to figure out how to communicate and support them.
  • Be attuned to your patterns of communicating.

Read more at http://www.business2community.com/leadership/emotional-intelligence-essential-leadership-trait-01203608#yw6vB0pHFs0fdGFt.99

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

Are You “Old Smart” or 21st Century Smart?

AI-lowres-300x28521st Century Smart: Staying Relevant In The Artificial Intelligence Age

Unless you have been under a rock, you know that the world is changing fast. You know that technology advances, especially smart robots and smart thinking machines, will continue to drive change. They will raise serious questions about how anyone over the age of 18 stays relevant and competitive job-wise in a world of smart machines. Studying that issue from the viewpoint of the science of learning leads me to believe that we all need to adopt a new operating definition of what being “smart” means. Why? Because it will be a new game—we will have to compete for jobs not only against other humans, but also against smart machines

Being “smart” now generally means that I know more than you as evidenced by good grades and fewer mistakes. It is quantity-based definition. Well, by that definition, smart machines will beat all of us. Smart machines can learn more, remember more and retrieve much more information much faster than we humans can with far fewer mistakes. Our ability to learn is hampered by our reflexive cognitive blindness and biases and by our emotional defensiveness. Smart machines don’t have those limitations.

So, where does that leave us if we want to stay relevant? We need to be good at doing what smart machines can’t do better than us, at least for the foreseeable future. For most workers that means being good at critical and innovative thinking and creativity and having and using high levels of social and emotional intelligence.

That would mean that the new, 21st century “smart” person would be someone who is a good critical and innovative thinker, listener, and collaborator and who has developed his or her emotional and social intelligence to high levels. This person would also need to be good at managing themselves—managing how one thinks, listens, emotionally reacts and emotionally engages and collaborates with others. Most of us have had no formal training in how to think, how to listen, how to emotionally engage, how to manage our emotions, or how to collaborate. And most of us probably have not done the necessary developmental work to attain high levels of emotional and social intelligence. That raises the question of how do we “old smart” people learn to be new, 21st century smart people? Here are seven steps I found in my research of the science of learning and high-performance learning organizations:

1. Accept the science of learning—our “humanness.” We all are usually suboptimal thinkers who operate on autopilot seeking to confirm what we already believe and seeking to affirm our self-image. We also are usually poor listeners, quick to judge, quick to defend or deny, and “it’s all about me”-oriented. We are usually fearful of making mistakes, looking bad and not being liked. That makes us, in many cases, emotionally defensive thinkers. We usually do not manage our thinking, listening, relating and emotions. In order to change, one must accept those realities and on a daily basis rigorously use strategies, processes and checklists to overcome those natural tendencies. No longer is being smart measured by how much you know. New, 21st century being smart will be measured by how well you think, listen, relate and collaborate with high emotional and social intelligence. 

2. Decouple your ego from your beliefs (not values). You are not your ideas. Your mental models are not reality. Decoupling your ego from your beliefs or ideas makes it easier to listen to different views with an open mind and without becoming emotionally defensive. It makes it is easier to collaborate with others and stress- test your beliefs. It makes it easier to modify your beliefs to better represent reality. It makes it easier to be a fair-minded seeker of fact-based truth.

3. Listen to learn not to confirm.Being a good listener is absolutely necessary to be a 21st century smart person. Most successful critical and innovative thinking and emotional engagement requires nonjudgmental, patient, empathetic listening. Good listeners do not interrupt people to show how smart they are. They often ask clarifying questions before giving their views. They reflect more as contrasted to emotionally defending or reacting. They seek to make meaning with other people by exploring ideas. They understand that listening is relational and not a competition. Good listening requires a quiet ego, a calm mind and calm emotions.

[For more see:  http://www.forbes.com/sites/darden/2015/04/08/21st-century-smart-staying-relevant-in-the-artificial-intelligence-age/]

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

 

Physical Health v Emotional Health – We Need BOTH

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We all take steps to keep our body fit and healthy. We look after our diet; we go to the gym or take up a sport to keep in shape (or at least this is one of our recurrent New Year’s resolutions); we go to the GP whenever we don’t feel well.

As we grow up we learn problem solving skills. In school we study various subjects, we learn to resolve practical problems.

What do we do for our emotional wellbeing?

For the most part, our quality of life is determined by our ability to deal with our emotions and yet we sometimes struggle to manage them. We don’t always know how to express them appropriately and have little awareness about what triggers them.

Our ability to deal with emotions can also affect our relationships.

Emotions are at the core of most of the decisions we make every day and influence our behaviour. If we feel annoyed we are more likely to snap at the people around us, or whenever we feel low, we may avoid other people’s company as we may feel we do not have the energy for that.

It can be hard to deal with the many demands of life and it is easier to keep our focus on the world outside as opposed to what happens on the inside.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to understand how we feel and why, and it can greatly improve our enjoyment of life.

It also makes it easier to identify other people’s emotions and respond appropriately.

When we pay attention to how we are feeling, we learn to trust our emotions, and we become far more able to manage them.

A healthy emotional life allows us to live more fully, to build stronger and more satisfying relationships and to look at the world around us in a more balanced and realistic way.

There are many steps we can take to increase our emotional intelligence.

Here are some for you to try:

• Stay with your emotions. If you experience uncomfortable feelings try not to distract yourself, but rather try to identify them.

• Try to find connections between how you are feeling now and other times that you felt similarly in the past.

• Listen to your body. A knot in the stomach may mean you are in a situation which you find stressful.

• Finally, pay attention to your behaviour. Notice how you act when you experience a certain emotion and how this affects your life.

http://www.morpethherald.co.uk/news/local-news/learning-to-live-healthier-1-7164540

 

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

Soothing the Toxic Office

5 Ways Successful Leaders Handle Toxic People

We’ve all encountered them. Try as we might in the hiring process, one or two might slip in and become the dark storm in our work environment.

Is there a way to avoid toxic people?

And if they’re a part of our business, how do we manage them?

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We can say they don’t know any better, perhaps they appear unaware of their ability to create turmoil or provoke untenable situations. More than likely, this individual possesses zero self-awareness and may have no idea that their emotional survival depends on chaos.

From the book Coping With Toxic Managers, Subordinates…and Other Difficult People by Roy H. Lubit M.D., Ph.D., toxic behaviors concern how someone has learned to understand the world and his or her place in it. Their core issues may manifest as narcissism, aggression, rigidity and unethical behavior. There are a variety of core belief systems at work, which are the foundation for their antagonistic behavior.

The toxic employee believes everyone is against him or her. In their mind, if they don’t attack first, they will be attacked. Some of these individuals delight in bullying others, giving them a sense of control over their peers. Others may see themselves as victims, and while their peers see their behavior as offensive, this person sees it as self-defense or some form of compensation for a perceived wrong.

Not only do toxic people lack any emotional intelligence (EQ) in dealing with others, they may lack the ability to manage their own emotions.

They may become overwhelmed by the intensity of their emotions. Their rigid behavior can create so much strife that every task becomes monumental in the work place, leaving many to struggle with becoming successful. While individuals who manage their emotions, become top performers in the company. They know how to remain calm and in control.

Leaders with a high EQ have an ability to offset the behavior of some toxic people. In many instances, where dismissing venomous personnel is not an option, leaders who are astute in EQ, can manage to neutralize their behavior.

There are several approaches available to leaders in handling toxic individuals. Below are five tips that may empower a leader to be more in control and remove toxicity from the work environment.

1. Solutions Only.

Misery loves company. Many toxic people get off on finding problems without concerning themselves to provide a solution. Toxic people feel better when others join them in feeling powerless and stuck in a negative state. They may feel a sense of control and perhaps, glee at bringing others down to their playing field. Create a policy that allows subordinates to report an issue, but at the same time requires them to provide a viable solution. Any time someone starts to complain, stop the talk and refocus on the solution. If that doesn’t work, then end the conversation. Complaining is not productive nor should it be tolerated.

2. Seek To Understand.

Understanding how a toxic person is motivated, provides a leader with information on the best way to influence the individual into behaving in more positive ways, by managing their emotions.

The key is knowing the differences in offensive types of behavior. Some are driven by fear and insecurity, others are confused or feel victimized, and many need to dominate and control other people. Those who operate on fear and insecurity, will become calmer when treated with tolerance and reassurance. Tolerance and reassurance on the other hand, will not work when dealing with someone who needs to control others or is a victim, if anything, it makes it worse. Strong boundaries determining acceptable behavior will be helpful in those cases, while those who suffer from anxiety and tension, will need to be offered other ‘mindful’ tools for coping.

Understanding these characteristics, equips leaders with knowledge to determine whether to keep an employee who is currently acting in a toxic manner or remove him or her from the business.

3. Remain Neutral and Practice Self-Awareness.

Falling into the drama created by someone else is unnecessary. Being pushed by someone into an emotional response that we can’t control can be stopped. Having self-awareness that whatever someone else is going through emotionally, does not start or end with anything we did. We all decide in a split second what we will react to, and what we can let go of. Leaders can witness an employee engaged in turmoil, while remaining the observer and not participate in the issue. In remaining neutral, it is easier to understand the toxic behavior, and see it as more predictable. Meanwhile, we must pay attention to our own emotional state. As leaders, we can catch ourselves reacting, take a step back, and say nothing. We may evaluate our trigger and make a decision requiring appropriate action (if any) on our part.

4. Emotional Intelligence With Action.

If a leader hasn’t developed their emotional intelligence enough, then it’s almost impossible for them to effectively utilize their learned ‘managerial’ skills. To motivate and persuade people, it’s necessary to know what they want, what they fear, how they perceive their tasks and what their ability is to actually listen to what is said to them. Focusing on their toxic behavior gives them power over us. If we get mired in the stress of how hard it is to deal with them, we never come to an equitable solution. A leader learning about his or her own feelings and perception of events, is more apt to find an optimal way to deal with toxic situations. Without these skills, the relationship with anyone we manage can become toxic.

5. Create a culture that strongly discourages toxic behavior.

The book The Four Agreements states, “Be Impeccable With Your Word,” we always have a choice in how we speak, including the words we use toward ourselves. If we are negative in addressing ourselves, it is likely we will be negative in talking to others. This may lead to victimization, an environment of blame. And if we’re focusing on negativity, we create more of it. What to do? Create a positive environment. Teach self-awareness and self-responsibility as a priority in the business. People who aren’t in fear and understand their role, own their mistakes and learn from failure are authentic and operate in a positive manner. As a leader, we not only need to practice this, we also need to remove any toxicity, which chronically pollutes the atmosphere. If a leader, doesn’t deal with a toxic employee, sometimes by removal, other employees may view them as condoning bad behavior and this costs a business.

Policies empowering the workers who genuinely exercise positive characteristics at work, can make a major difference in the entire workplace culture.

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-crossley/5-ways-successful-leaders_b_6882966.html

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org

 

 

Google Emotional Intelligence – If You Want to Work with Google

GoogleWhy Are Leading Tech Companies Like Google, Facebook and Zappos Investing in Emotional Intelligence?

Coaches Working with Silicon Valley Giants Featured at Vitality Conference

SAN FRANCISCO, March 2, 2015 /PRNewswire/ – It’s no secret Silicon Valley tech companies are great at hiring the brightest, most tech-savvy employees to come up with the next big thing. But increasingly, they are finding that being tech savvy doesn’t always mean good people skills. Now they are acting on research that suggests emotional intelligence (EQ) is an even greater predictor of effective leadership.  The week of March 16-20th, coaches working with Zappos, Facebook, and Google will be presenting at Six Seconds’ 4th Annual Vitality emotional intelligence conference and talking about these company’s initiatives to improve the people skills in their organizations.

As Rich Hazeltine, Sr. Manager of Tech University @ Zappos, IP Inc., says: “In the tech sector, and probably everywhere, the ‘secret’ ingredient to great leadership is connecting with people.  I teach emotional intelligence because it’s the skillset that enables managers to actually lead.”

Experts in emotional intelligence have teamed up with major companies to learn how they can enhance employee engagement and organizational vitality. This five day online conference offers real-time interaction with leaders and innovators in business, science, education, and psychology.

The topics include using emotional intelligence to build teams and effective organizations, increase employee loyalty and retention, and improve overall success. Other topics include building safe schools and helping reconnect youth to their communities.

Presented by Six Seconds, one of the oldest and largest organizations teaching emotional intelligence (EQ), this highly interactive event will feature over 75 webinars with leading thinkers in the field. It is free and open to anyone with a computer and internet connection. Last year’s online conference featured 20,000 discreet sign ups by participants.

http://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/why-are-leading-tech-companies-like-google-facebook-and-zappos-investing-in-emotional-intelligence-300042769.html

ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res Geetu Bharwaney

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015). http://www.eiworld.org

 

Finding a Home for Emotional Intelligence

Emotional intelligence: Don’t forget about people

By David Lykken
Special to MPA

In the mortgage industry, we have the tendency to focus on numbers. Just like in any other industry, we focus a great deal on sales–on producing results. We’re concerned in closing ratios and productivity in generating revenue, and so on and so forth. We also pay a lot of attention to rates, because they sort of set the pace for the direction our industry moves. Most of the time, we’re only considering what can be quantified.

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Image courtesy of “Hand And Icon House” by phanlop88 at FreeDigitalPhotos.net

What we often forget, though, is that our industry–just like every other–is all about people. We talk about “the consumer” like it’s an abstract concept quantified by ideas such as “consumer sentiment.” But, at the end of the day, the consumer is a real life flesh-and-blood human being. Consumers are people with real wants and desires. And it’s not just consumers; it’s employees, it’s partners, it’s investors. All of these are people–and not just numbers.

As leaders in the mortgage industry, I believe we need to invest more in bolstering our emotional intelligence. We need to work on strengthening our levels of empathy. We need to be able to understand what people want and why they behave the way they do. The old saw is true: people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. When we can demonstrate to the people with whom we interact that we care about them, the numbers will follow. But we should always start with empathy–we should always start with treating people like the human beings they are.

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

Geetu-High Quality Res     Geetu Bharwaney                        

Geetu is the Founding Director of Ei World Limited, one of Europe’s thought leaders in the application of emotional resilience and emotional intelligence in business.  She is Author of ‘Emotional Resilience: Know what it takes to be agile, adaptable and perform at your best’ (published by Pearson Education, 2015 with audiobook recorded by Ei World, 2015).

http://www.eiworld.org